ELAINE KORNGOLD, LPC | Certified Brainspotting Therapist and Approved Consultant | Certified Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapist | Certified in Trauma, ADHD, Autism Counseling | Career Counseling, Financial Therapy | 503-770-0810 | AskCounseling@outlook.com
John and Julie Gottman who developed Gottman Method Couples Therapy wrote a new book “Eight Dates: The Essential Conversations That Lead to a Lifetime of Love”. Their big secret to creating a love that lasts and grows over time is … Read more
One-third of women experience birth trauma, often during preventable situations. The experience can leave the new mother traumatized and unwilling to have any more children, even though she and her partner may have previously discussed having more. A “one and … Read more
We are told many contradictory things about money that result in complicating our thoughts, feelings and behaviors. Here is an entertaining article that describes money tips from the New York Times readers’ ideas on managing family money and keeping families … Read more
Here is a wonderful TEDx talk (20 minutes) where Dr. Julie Gottman gives an overview of Gottman Method Couples therapy and how it applies to dealing with perpetual and resolvable conflicts in the home. My clients will recognize the Gottman-Rapoport … Read more
The article below says: troubled relationships are all too common among adults with unmanaged ADHD. Although ADHD afflicts millions of adults, it remains under-diagnosed – only about 10 percent of adults who met the diagnostic criteria for ADHD had been … Read more
Here is a wonderful article that describe how John and Julie Gottman talk about how they met and fell in love, and how Gottmans follow their own advice to keep their relationship special: https://www.nytimes.com/2019/05/28/fashion/weddings/marriage-therapists-who-follow-their-own-advice.html “Dr. Schwartz Gottman John and I … Read more
The article below highlights the challenges for people who are living paycheck-to-paycheck. The sad situation is that a nationwide online study of 25,000 American adults found that while “just over two-fifths of respondents (41%) report spending less than their income, … Read more
Each year, hundreds of thousands of couples go into counseling in an effort to resolve relationship problems and save their marriages. But does marital therapy work? Not nearly as well as it should, researchers say. Two years after ending counseling, … Read more
In sessions with couples using Gottman Method therapy, I often quote various research statistics from the Gottman Institute. For example, most relationship problems (69%) never get resolved but are “perpetual” problems based on personality differences between partners. For these types of … Read more
Here is an excellent list of 12 communication roadblocks to listening; these can negatively impact interactions at home or at work – https://www.gordontraining.com/leadership/warning-communication-roadblocks-can-hazardous-relationships/ These roadblocks are: Ordering, Directing, Commanding Warning, Admonishing, Threatening Moralizing, Preaching, Imploring Advising, Giving Suggestions or Solutions … Read more