My name is Elaine Korngold, LPC. Below are various couples resources – books and video clips that I share in sessions with my Couples Counseling clients:
Books Referenced in Couples Counseling
- The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work – by J. M. Gottman
- You Are the One You’ve Been Waiting For: Bringing Courageous Love To Intimate Relationships – by R. C. Schwartz
- Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love – by S. Johnson
- Sexual Intelligence: What We Really Want from Sex – by M. Klein
- For Better: The Science of a Good Marriage – by T. Parker-Pope
- The Good Life: Lessons from the World’s Longest Scientific Study of Happiness – by R. Waldinger, M. Schulz
- The Secret Life of Secrets: How Our Inner Worlds Shape Well-Being, Relationships, and Who We Are – by M. Slepian
- I Didn’t Sign Up for This: A Couples Therapist Shares Real-Life Stories of Breaking Patterns and Finding Joy in Relationships…Including Her Own – by T Dalgleish
- Stop the Fight!: An Illustrated Guide for Couples: How to Break Free from the 12 Most Common Arguments and Build a Relationship That Lasts – by M. Brody
Attachment Styles
- Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find and Keep Love – by A. Levine & R. Heller
- Wired for Dating: How Understanding Neurobiology and Attachment Style Can Help You Find Your Ideal Mate – by S. Tatkin & H. Hendrix
- Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner’s Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship – by S. Tatkin & H. Hendrix
- The Power of Attachment: How to Create Deep and Lasting Intimate Relationships – by D. P. Heller
Infidelity
- NOT “Just Friends”: Protect Your Relationship From Infidelity and Heal the Trauma of Betrayal – by S. Glass (with J. C. Staeheli)
- What Makes Love Last? how to build trust and avoid betrayal: Secrets From the Love Lab – by J. M. Gottman & N. Silver
- The Science of Trust: Emotional Attunement for Couples – by J. Gottman
- After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful – by J. A. Spring
- How Can I Forgive You? The Courage to Forgive, the Freedom Not To – by J. A. Spring
- The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity – by E.Perel
- The Dangerous Passion: Why Jealousy Is as Necessary as Love and Sex – by D. M. Buss
- How to Help Your Spouse Heal From Your Affair: A Compact Manual for the Unfaithful – by L. J. MacDonald
Neurodiverse Relationships
- The ADHD Effect on Marriage: Understand and Rebuild Your Relationship in Six Steps – by M. Orlov
- Married to Distraction: Restoring Intimacy and Strengthening Your Marriage in an Age of Interruption – by E. M. Hallowell, S. Hallowell, & M. Orlov
- Loving Someone With Attention Deficit Disorder: A Practical Guide to Understanding Your Partner, Improving Communication & Strengthening Your Relationship – by S. Tschudi
- ADHD After Dark: Better Sex Life, Better Relationship – by A. Tuckman
- Love and Asperger’s: Practical Strategies To Help Couples Understand Each Other and Strengthen Their Connection – by K. McNulty
- Marriage and Lasting Relationships with Asperger’s Syndrome (Autism Spectrum Disorder) – by E. A. Mendes
- Asperger Syndrome and Long-Term Relationships – by A. Stanford
- The Journal of Best Practices: A Memoir of Marriage, Asperger Syndrome, and One Man’s Quest to Be a Better Husband – by D. Finch
Videos Referenced in Couples Counseling
- A short clip from the movie “Inside Out” – Sadness comforts Bing Bong
- “It’s not about the nail” – communication and listening skills
- Brené Brown on Empathy vs. Sympathy
- Gottman Method: bids – turning towards each other
- Gottman Method: 4 Horsemen of Apocalypse (criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling) explained
- Adult Attachment Theory and Research explained
- Mixed Neurology Couple communication differences – IFS Institute shares a free recording of a 2-hour workshop from IFS 2021 Annual Conference – “Using IFS & intimacy From the Inside Out (IFIO) with Neurodivergent Couples” with Kim Bolling, Psy.D. Through the lens of neurodiversity, a movement to de-pathologize atypical neurological wiring, we look at applications of IFS and Intimacy from the Inside Out (IFIO) to working with mixed-neurology couples.