This article describes how grandparents can create shared memories with their grandchildren.
“When we think about what we leave behind as grandparents, we hope we will have transmitted lessons about kindness, justice, strength and confidence, the boundless nature of love.”
“Psychologists say we retain very little of what happened before we turn 3. Memories “gradually strengthen from age 2 to 8,” said Nora Newcombe, a cognitive and developmental psychologist at the Temple University Infant and Child Lab. “They’re more detailed. They last longer.” We can help the process along by the way we talk with our grandkids about shared experiences – using lots of details and emphasizing that an event felt emotionally significant.”
“Each time we respond to our grandchildren with love and patience, help them feel secure and valued, we’re helping to build positive attachment. It will prove crucial to their well-being later in life, even if memories of incidents and rituals evaporate.”
www.nytimes.com/2019/09/19/well/family/what-will-my-grandchild-remember.html
While our frontal cortex may not remember specific events that happen before the age of 2, our limbic system, or the emotional part of the brain that connects to our body though the brainstem, remembers everything. That’s what we work with when we do brainspotting therapy to help clients heal from preverbal trauma.
Brainspotting Therapy with Elaine Korngold
I am a Certified Brainspotting Therapist and an Approved Consultant and would be happy to talk to you about Brainspotting. Brainspotting therapy accesses the genius of our deeper emotional brain. During the healing process I am fortunate to observe how intelligent, inventive, and intuitive all human beings are. Creativity is revealed through their resilience, survival, and recovery. The processing that occurs with clients focused on a Brainspot is deep, rapid, and unpredictable. During each session I wait for the surprise and I am rarely disappointed.
With your focused vision and my attuned presence and verbal guidance, emotional Brainspots can be released in a gentle and non-invasive way. There is no need to be in chronic emotional pain. Please text or email me for a free consultation.