ELAINE KORNGOLD, LPC | Brainspotting, IFS, Financial Therapy, Career Counseling | Gottman Method, IFS for Couples – IFIO, Neurodiverse Couples | ADHD, Autism | 503-770-0810 | AskCounseling@outlook.com
Here is a wonderful TEDx talk (20 minutes) where Dr. Julie Gottman gives an overview of Gottman Method Couples therapy and how it applies to dealing with perpetual and resolvable conflicts in the home. My clients will recognize the Gottman-Rapoport … Read more
The article below says: troubled relationships are all too common among adults with unmanaged ADHD. Although ADHD afflicts millions of adults, it remains under-diagnosed – only about 10 percent of adults who met the diagnostic criteria for ADHD had been … Read more
Here is a wonderful article that describe how John and Julie Gottman talk about how they met and fell in love, and how Gottmans follow their own advice to keep their relationship special: https://www.nytimes.com/2019/05/28/fashion/weddings/marriage-therapists-who-follow-their-own-advice.html “Dr. Schwartz Gottman John and I … Read more
Each year, hundreds of thousands of couples go into counseling in an effort to resolve relationship problems and save their marriages. But does marital therapy work? Not nearly as well as it should, researchers say. Two years after ending counseling, … Read more
In sessions with couples using Gottman Method therapy, I often quote various research statistics from the Gottman Institute. For example, most relationship problems (69%) never get resolved but are “perpetual” problems based on personality differences between partners. For these types of … Read more
How do you know if the relationship is over? I practice Gottman Method Couples Therapy and I discovered this “love quiz” on Gottman Institute website listing 6 signs that might be helpful in answering the question: is it time for … Read more
Gottman Method Couples therapy defines a bid as any attempt from one partner to another for attention, affirmation, affection, or any other positive connection. Bids show up in simple ways, a smile or wink, and more complex ways, like a request … Read more
Sometimes it’s hard to find just the right way to express empathy in a conversation. We’ve all heard and used “I know how you feel” or “I’m sorry you feel that way”, but somehow neither works well enough and both … Read more
Here is a good article that lists 5 signs that you may need couples therapy. “Inevitably, all relationships have their ups and downs — and most of the lows are things that that the two of you can work through, … Read more
Divorce brings out the worst in one’s personality and is highly emotional. People often cycle through all the stages of grief when they experience divorce. Mental health counseling or specifically divorce counseling can help in providing emotional support for this … Read more