Couples counseling: Gottman bids – turning towards

Gottman Method Couples therapy defines a bid as any attempt from one partner to another for attention, affirmation, affection, or any other positive connection. Bids show up in simple ways, a smile or wink, and more complex ways, like a request for advice or help. In general, women make more bids than men, but in the healthiest relationships, both partners are comfortable making all kinds of bids. Here is a short video clip explaining bids as ways to turn towards each other: