This Gottman blog article describes how as we get older and busier, we may have to work harder to stay connected to our partners, and to other people close to use – https://www.gottman.com/blog/4-ways-to-stay-connected-during-life-transitions/. We are stressed during the day and tired when we get home. Going out or doing something with friends may feel like a chore, when we haven’t had the time to exercise or cook a proper meal. The article recommends the following four ways to stay connected:
- Schedule the time to be together explicitly
- Take turns tending to each other’s needs
- Develop rituals for connecting
- Forgive each other quickly
I work with individuals and couples as they move through various life transitions. Together, we examine the patterns that are working in their lives and the patterns that need to change. Counseling can help with the change process that is often more difficult than it appears.