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In sessions with couples using Gottman Method therapy, I often quote various research statistics from the Gottman Institute. For example, most relationship problems (69%) never get resolved but are “perpetual” problems based on personality differences between partners. For these types of … Read more
Here is an excellent list of 12 communication roadblocks to listening; these can negatively impact interactions at home or at work – https://www.gordontraining.com/leadership/warning-communication-roadblocks-can-hazardous-relationships/ These roadblocks are: Ordering, Directing, Commanding Warning, Admonishing, Threatening Moralizing, Preaching, Imploring Advising, Giving Suggestions or Solutions … Read more
How do you know if the relationship is over? I practice Gottman Method Couples Therapy and I discovered this “love quiz” on Gottman Institute website listing 6 signs that might be helpful in answering the question: is it time for … Read more
Gottman Method Couples therapy defines a bid as any attempt from one partner to another for attention, affirmation, affection, or any other positive connection. Bids show up in simple ways, a smile or wink, and more complex ways, like a request … Read more
47% of Americans would not be able to come up with $400 in case of an emergency. Admitting to financial insecurity may be more embarrassing than sexual impotence. Much of American middle class is living paycheck to paycheck. “To struggle … Read more
Sometimes it’s hard to find just the right way to express empathy in a conversation. We’ve all heard and used “I know how you feel” or “I’m sorry you feel that way”, but somehow neither works well enough and both … Read more
Here is a good article that lists 5 signs that you may need couples therapy. “Inevitably, all relationships have their ups and downs — and most of the lows are things that that the two of you can work through, … Read more
Divorce brings out the worst in one’s personality and is highly emotional. People often cycle through all the stages of grief when they experience divorce. Mental health counseling or specifically divorce counseling can help in providing emotional support for this … Read more
This article describes 5 helpful tips for couples to save money and improve their relationship. “Nearly all marriages come with financial challenges. Big or small, money issues are going to come up and it can be stressful. Whenever we are … Read more