The article describes the impact of parents’ behavioral styles on your upbringing. How your parents raised you, your upbringing factors, impact your success and comfort levels in your career, in your relationships, and how you are in the world.
“Countless studies and extensive clinical research has found links between your parents’ behavior during childhood and how you act as an adult. If your mother was constantly juggling multiple jobs, you are likely to suffer from stress. If your parents set high expectations for you, you were more likely to perform better in school.”
For example, “children who grow up doing chores take on more responsibility at work instead of waiting for tasks to get assigned to them, according to Julie Lythcott-Haims, former Dean of Freshmen at Stanford University and author of “How to Raise an Adult.” They also better collaborate with their coworkers and can better empathize with others.”
This article describes 10 key elements of your upbringing that make you who you are today:
- Having to do chores as a child helps you take on independent tasks as an adult.
- The social skills that you parents taught you may have led you to finish college and get a well-paying job.
- The white lies that your parents told you make it hard for you to trust others as an adult.
- Parents’ negative remarks about your body probably lead to low self-confidence as an adult.
- Parental high expectations may have resulted in your high performance at school.
- If your mom graduated from college, you probably did too.
- If your mom was really stressed, your math scores were probably impacted.
- Females whose moms worked outside the house may be earning higher salaries than their female peers.
- Loving and attentive moms may have kids who do better at school.
- If you learned from your parents to talk about your feelings, your chance of getting divorced are lower.
https://www.theladders.com/career-advice/10-ways-your-parents-behaviors-shaped-who-you-are-today
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