Couples Counseling: Gottmans’ 8 dates

John and Julie Gottman who developed Gottman Method Couples Therapy wrote a new book “Eight Dates: The Essential Conversations That Lead to a Lifetime of Love”. Their big secret to creating a love that lasts and grows over time is simple: make dedicated, non-negotiable time for each other a priority, and never stop being curious about your partner.

Four decades of research performed by the Gottmans and their team have led them to the eight topics that matter most to relationships — trust and commitment; conflict; sex; money; family; fun and adventure; growth and spirituality; and dreams. If couples keep talking together about these eight essential topics, they have the best chance of their own ‘happy ever after’.

“These dates will help you strengthen your relationship and reduce conflict. They may even help you fall in love all over again, and return to those times when you’d stay up all night talking, fascinated by each other. So get your diaries out and plan them — they’ll transform your marriage.”

Date #1: Lean on me

Date #2: Let’s agree about how we disagree

Date #3: Ignite the passion

Date #4: Time to talk about the cost of love

Date #5: It really is a family affair

Date #6: Be adventurous

Date #7: How to grow old together

Date #8: Live the dream

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-7369537/The-8-dates-make-marriage-ever.html

Gottman Method Couples Therapy with Elaine Korngold

Pre-marital, marriage, and couples counseling can help couples to reconnect, improve their communication and rebuild trust. My clients include monogamous straight and gay couples, new and newly engaged couples, those in long term relationships, neurodiverse couples, and couples in crisis. Couples get help in breaking down barriers, so that each person can see the other’s viewpoint. We also address difficulties such as long standing areas of conflict, infidelity, divorce, or additional challenges caused by illnesses or addiction. To learn more about how I can help you, please reach out to schedule a free 20-minute phone consultation.